When i get fingered, i don't feel anything pleasurable?

I am a virgin and when my boyfriend fingers me, i don't feel anything pleasurable, he is worried that it will be like that for me when we have . I never really fingered myself before, we did try to have , but he has a big , and it hurt too bad and we had to stop. could that be because I never fingered myself and am too tight? I have had s before, but they have never been from being fingered. Is this foreboding for when we do have ?